It can be hard to pick up the phone and call a therapist for help with a family problem. There are some common myths about families that might make this even more difficult. For example, it’s easy to believe that good families shouldn’t have problems, children won’t have problems if you are a good parent, it is supposed to be easy to raise children, teens will never listen to you, and good parents should be able to easily balance work, children, and their personal life.
The truth is that no family is perfect. Every family has a different dynamic and their own way of dealing with problems. Because of this, there is no perfect way to run a family. But even in healthy families things can go wrong and parents can encounter problems that they don’t know how to handle. These problems often include parenting conflicts, discipline issues, lack of respect, adjusting to a divorce or a blending of families, problems with sexuality, gambling, drugs or alcohol, and even just handling the stress of a family’s everyday schedule. Problems with clear communication within a family can often cause a family to get stuck and this is when it may be helpful to call for some back-up.
The goals for our family therapy sessions in Holden include learning to properly communicate with one another. Once all members of a family know how to talk and listen to each other with respect and understanding, it becomes much easier to find the solutions that will work for each person and the family as a whole. In Family Therapy it is usually best to have the whole family participate, so that everyone makes these changes together and no one gets left out.
Families change and grow over time as they are faced with different trials, tribulations, and even celebrations. We must learn to adapt to these changes and find ways to work together as a family to solve our problems. Family Therapy creates an intimate space where we can discover how to properly support each other and communicate when we face the problems of the past and when we are presented with new problems in the future.